Beyoncé Said She Only Gives Herself One Day To Feel Sorry for Herself
And this advice changed my life
Self-Help is a business that is booming in the present day with an to write the title increasing number of options to choose from.
You are told to feel the emotions, to share them, to understand them. That every feeling matter. It is important to talk about your feelings.
But for me, whenever I talked about them, the negative effect of it, just ended up increasing in magnitude. I would do everything by the book.
Let the emotions penetrate me. Try to understand them and then detach myself from them.
Let it wash over me fully so I could experience it. But still, every time a person, with whom I had shared it brought it up, I would feel the sadness.
When I slowly learned to recover from it, I realized people expect you to be sad when they talk about the topic. To convince people, something affects you, you have to show sadness. And so I tried to show them the sadness making myself remember the sadness all overall.
The vicious cycle continued.
‘However close the person is, they do not understand the depth of your sadness until you show it.’
Well then, how did The Queen’s advice help me, you ask?
But first a little background on Beyoncé — Beyoncé is one of the best-selling music artists of all time, the most Grammy-nominated woman artist, and arguably one of the greatest entertainers in history. She is popularly known as Queen B by her fans.
It allowed me to give myself 24 hours to wallow in pain, cry my heart out, and indulge myself in ice cream and brownies. To completely feel it.
But it also gave me 24 hours to come up with how to move past it.
How to accept it and try to come up with a plan that motivates me.
And now, whenever the topic is brought up again, I know its effect, but I also know I am doing something to handle it and I am using the pain to fuel myself forward.
Now when someone brings up the topic, I show them the change the pain brought about in me and hope the conversation makes the person see me in a brighter light than expect me to be sad.
